July 29, 2018

The best thing you can do for a friend who's going through a quarter-life crisis

Help a friend in life crisis

I'm going through a quarter-life crisis, and I know that this puzzle is something I have to figure out on my own. With life's every blow, I keep stumbling. For every couple of steps I take forward, I take a step back, and each time, I fall right back on my knees. Many times, I want to disappear like a bubble. During those times, I go through periods of being determined to make it happen but thank God, I have loved ones who stay with me and help me get over those depressed periods.

Am I just being dramatic? I'm not sure. I do know that in those brief moments, I feel like the world's folding up around me, sinking me deeper and deeper, into its core, as if burying me alive.

No wise words would make sense but hearing a familiar voice, telling me to hold on, makes a huge difference. That's just what I need. For someone to show up, and be there for me, when I'm too weak to be there for myself.

When those spells of depression are over, a tinge of sadness remains. I'm not suddenly transformed into a motivated optimist. Getting over those spells means I am able to live through another couple of hours, a day, or a few days at best.

The spells can come back. They most likely will, and just like before, I will need someone to be there for me, someone to tell me to hold on. Are you willing to be that someone?

You're reading this probably because you have a friend who's like me, going through a life crisis right now. You're probably looking for a way to help him/her, but you don't know what to do. If so, I have one advice for you.

Be present. Be there for your friend.

You can be honest and tell him/her that you don't know what to say, or what to do, but that you are there for him/her. I'm sure, your presence would be very much appreciated. Life's a voyage through turbulent waters, but we don't have to go through it alone. Life's challenges become bearable when you have people journeying with you.

When you tell your friend you're there for him/her, I hope your words will not be empty. If your friend does need something that you can actually help with, I hope you try the best that you can and help with joy. For some, their situation can get so overwhelming that they get paralyzed and are unable to move forward with their life. A little assistance, a little nudge, from a friend like you could make a difference. It made a huge difference in mine.

For the people who showed up for me, and are continuously showing up, I would like to take this opportunity to extend my gratitude to you. I'm sorry for the burden I've laid on you. I highly appreciate everything you have done, and are doing for me, even the smallest thing such as doing my laundry when I'm too dysfunctional to do it myselfWithout you, I couldn't have survived this far. Thank you.

Want to help a friend out? Let your friend know that you support him/her. Send him/her a message now! With today's technology, it would only take up at least one minute of your day!

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